Is it really necessary to do a whole episode on sins that men are more prone to commit? Pastor Steve and guest Steve Peck think so, and tackle as many as they can in an hour (with minimal sidetracking). So, is it alright to imply that there are sins that men are more likely to fall prey to?
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Lust of the flesh, eyes. 1 Jn 2:16
a.Who made sex?
b. Is sex one of those pre-fall “good things?” sex is good.
c. What’s sex for?
i. to produce households.
ii. to powerfully bind man and woman (also chemically, with chemicals such as oxytocin)
iii. mutual pleasure (intended for pleasure)
d. But we are fallen, and we (men!) can twist, corrupt, pervert.i. Turn it into forn, adult, and any other sexual perversion. ii. Seek to fulfill outside where God intends. Premarit. Extra marit. Divorce w/o legit. Porn.
So lust is definitely one of the sins of men.
e.What can you do?
i. Flee - 1 Cor 6 (Joseph).
ii. Pluck out eyes. Take radical measures. Not half hearted.
iii. Put off and put on. 1 Cor 6. Such were some of you.
iv. Romans 6:12, Confess James 5:16.
- The pride of life
God has given men a desire to subdue and rule.
a. Can be turned into power and success and possessions for ego’s sake.
b. 1 Jn - pride of life. Pride - devil b/c he devil.
c. What to do? Mortify. Scpt. “Boast not thyself.. Let another man praise you…”
Passivity. Distraction.
What were men created to do? Exercise dominion. Be head. Create a family. (Gen 1, Mt 28).
But what might happen?
Sinful, distracted, passive, redirect that drive to other things.
Lazy - Proverbs - A lion! As door…
Substitute the dopamine drip of fake dominion (game). Fake woman (online).
What can you do? - Turn aggressive instincts (T) to productive endeavors. Get a real woman. Real job. Real career. Real dominion.Eschatology (side-tracked).
a. Basic definition- The end of things, so in the case of the Bible, the end times.
b. Steve and Steve describe the different positionsWhite knight syndrome. [Good To Be A Man, Michael Foster (88-93)].
My job is to affirm my women (or affirm women). When I affirm, good job. Job done.a. God has put a drive in men to defend and protect. But we’re fallen, and that drive can go off course. How? b. Everything does - motive is to gain approval of a woman. To avoid her disapproval. His desire is for female validation. He’s working to do whatever is needed for her to affirm him. What’s he to do? Affirm. c. So, for example, his wife is misbehaving.Address the emotions? No - Affirms. Sit and listen deeply, and then affirm. Just affirm.
d. What does he need to do? He needs to lead. Objective, bring the Word of God to bear. e. There are pastors who fit this profile. They do the same thing with women in the flock. i. Won’t call out the sins of women (not even aware that there is such a category) ii. Affirm women, even when not appropriate iii. When women want things - (it’s good to be a man, p 89) 1. Affirm anyone who is relational/agreeable, ignore their error (b/c made, fueled to knit people together) 2. Exclude anyone who is disagreeable, regardless of the fact that they’re fighting for orthodoxy. 3. Page 91 of Good To Be A Man, Michael Foster iv. Ends up -> Enable influencer women to lead the church into error.Failure to lead.
a. Who’s supposed to lead? Garden, OT, NT - Adam to lead. Created first. Time gap. Man to lead.
b. Lead on what? To lead on Mission. What mission?
i. Gen 1 mission.
ii. Mt 28 mission.
iii. Lead family on God’s mission. Lead sons, daughters.. Shape and form into resp disciples
iv. Fail. Fail to address problems, deal redemptively. Fail to apply wisdom.Crude Joking
a. Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. (Eph 5:4)Violence.
a. Men are capable of much violence. In a fallen world, we need. We only have peace and safety b/c of violent men out on the perimeters… Willing.
b. That capability for violence can be good, or bad. Men have to decide. Lawful or unlawful.
c. Prison populations (93%. Oppression!!!! Why can’t women be equally rep?). Murders. Anger - testosterone. FOTS = self control. Gentleness.Love of money & possessions (hobbies) - a root of all kinds of evil. Too interested in money. Inordinately - money.
a. How do I know when? When money is more important than the will of God. When trust in money. When you ignore God-given priorities to make more money. Ignore family.
b. Workaholic (temperament).
c. What to do? Love Christ. Love family.
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